January passed in a blink.
We have sleep issues in our home, our youngest daughter, E, has decided to take control of her sleep and do it during the day instead of the usual night time.
Ramifications; 1. Beautiful daughter is butt ugly in the morning.
2. She doesn’t go to school for the correct time.
3. She doesn’t go to school at all.
4. She disturbs MY sleep.
5. Even though she is in school for a short period each day she is still reaching or passing her goals.
6. She makes us tear our hair out in frustration and husband is going thin on top anyway.
Short of gaffa taping her to the bed with a blind fold i don’t really know what else i can do.
We have learnt that there is ‘VAMPING’ teens using social media at night to talk to friends and kids they meet on line, dangerous possibilities there, E knows of these dangers, she has been taught them at home, school, scouts and we keep an eye on the facebook page but there are so many different social media sites for them to use these days. Bedtime comes round, the bedroom door is shut and the light clicks on and you just know sleep hasn’t a hope in hell.
Hands up, i can say whole-heartedly that she has us over a barrel, we are frightened of her and the shouting that goes on if we take computers, phones, ipods off her. We can’t face the scene she makes and will often let her have here own way, to a certain extent, just so we have a quiet life. That’s not to say we let her get away with murder, she is dragged to school if she is unwilling, the phone is taken away but i think we are fighting a battle we could loose if we are not careful, just because we are up against everyone else’s kids and parents.
But is Insomnia something you can catch?
Big bro B spends all night on the playstation, i have no control of that as he is 19 and has moved out, there is a job in the offing maybe that will turn him around. Next bro A, 16 left school, not in further ed or training, plays on the computer all day and night, not a good role model. I often wonder if i did something really bad in a past life to earn these kids, i wouldn’t have dreamt of doing the things they do, reading until late was about the worst it got.
Yet tonight here i am at 2.10 am and i am cooking. There is a big pan of chicken and noodle soup on my stove simmering away for tomorrows lunch, the smell is delicious and i am writing my first post of 2015 and instead of it being about photography it’s about sleep or the lack of.
I’m not sure how many nights have been disturbed since last June when things started to go pear shaped but i figure that over the past month i have only had a handful of nights that haven’t been disturbed in some way. Yes i feel sorry for myself, who wouldn’t, and i want EVERYONE to know how sorry i feel, battling my daughter is taking massive chunks out of my day, bits where i should be working, out taking photos, looking for craft markets, on social media sharing my work, out selling it or arranging for gallery space. It is SO frustrating!
Finger’s crossed this phase will pass soon, year 9 at school is options year and we are nearly there. My business needs my attention or it wont grow. Please God of sleep smite her down and lets get this Insomnia thing beaten!
I don’t think Insomnia is catching, you suffer from it/with it and you suffer with those you love. We will do everything we can for E to help her overcome this and will do it with love and i hope understanding. It’s a tough one but we will do it together, as a family.
The bane of every parents night…. night terror’s! It starts off when they are small but then you get used to being awake at night with feeds and nappy changes etc but ‘Mum there is a massive spider on the ceiling over my bed and you have to come and kill it right now’ waking you from a very deep sleep is really not my favorite thing to hear at 1.45 am from my 16 year old terror! Having jumped feet from being woken so abruptly my first thought is ‘deal with it!’ my second thought is ‘damn i’m awake.’ Now i know when i have dragged my body into the terror’s bedroom that this massive spider is going to be, well, not so big at all, i also know that even though i have my glasses on the chances of me seeing this spider and dealing with it are slim as my eyes just are not awake enough to actually see straight yet. Navigating the stairs to the terror’s bedroom and squinting in the light i can see, well almost, that i am right, it’s not the camel spider i’m led to believe. I gave it a wake, loose it, smack a few poster’s in an attempt to be seen to be getting rid of it, moan at terror about being woken at stupid o’clock and retreat back to my bed. But now i’m awake! Thanks Kid. I also discover that i am not the only one awake as it looks like both terror’s haven’t been to sleep at all yet….. Grrrrrrrrr teenager’s! You may find the following images slightly ugh! The top image is what i thought i was dealing with, the bottom one sort of what i found.